The Flower that Wilted Before It Could Bloom

I could not believe my eyes when the news of Sushant’s suicide flashed on the TV on Sunday. I thought it to be fake but when I turned to other channels, it struck that he ended his life. It shocked me and shook me from within…how come a young talented guy with charisma in his personality could do this to himself.

Whole day, I was glued to the news channel and waiting for the news that he did not commit suicide…maybe some foul play. You might ask me why such thought erupted in my mind. Because I could not believe that an eminent personality who was blessed with positive vibes could do this to himself. A person, who etched his career all by himself without any godfather in the industry and rose to stardom in such a short span of time…ever-smiling could take such a drastic step. UNBELIEVABLE…SADLY IT CAME OUT TO BE TRUE.

Whole night, I waited for the post-mortem report to hear that he did not end his life…certainly, there was something different that snatched the bright star from us. The post mortem report denied any foul play.

I felt unknown anxiety within myself…I was not following him nor much fond of him though I liked his revelations in a few of his films and the last viewed, CHICHORE

I am an emotional stuff and have worked out on myself to get out of it but still the news of death of the young souls do ditch my heart even today. He was more like my own child in age, originated from my state and was deserving. Rather, after this incident, I feel the child who was so good in academics, and had interest in different subjects…why he chose the tinsel town which dazzles from outside.

Knowing about his life, only son after four sisters are pampered a lot in our state and they are overprotected by the parents, sisters, family and acquaintances…reason being people still believe in male dominated society. So, he cannot be a rogue nor can stoop so low to beg for his rights. It is my general perception though exceptions are always there.

Further, a deserving talent won’t give up his whims and desires to please others in his youth…though, if he sustained, he would have learned the tricks, ‘how to please others to sustain in the industry.’ But, an energetic and promising guy chasing his dreams raised in discipline won’t take the wrong way easily to butter the wrong guys.

It is not a cakewalk for all rather you should be tough shelled to survive the brickbats and the rejections.

Still, I find difficult to believe that he ended his life…it is the turmoil of my emotions which is not letting me believe…but, it’s TRUE now.

There was so much of hue and cry on different social media platforms and news channels related to #SushantSinghRajput and many unknown facts were unearthed by different people…but it won’t bring SUSHANT BACK?

Why the people were silent when they were aware that he was going through a rough patch and incessant rejections broke him to the core?

He is gone forever, his sweet memories will remain with us and with time, it will fade…UNIVERSAL TRUTH.

Through my post, I request people, especially youngsters to be brave and accept rejections of life as a part and parcel of life. Life is a bed of roses with thorns embedded in it and you have to learn to sync with the thorns and the roses…be ready for the roller coaster ride.

As you accept the appraisal same way you accept the flaws of life because life is an adventurous trip and you have to go through the upheavals, off and on.

Count the blessings that you are showered with instead of counting the deficiencies of life.

Remember, “Failures are the pillars of success”, in order to taste the sweetness of success, you have to be ready to taste the bitterness.

The most important message that I want to convey through my post is that professional life is quite different from personal and friendship life…so, never take things for granted nor try to give a personal touch to professional life.

I want to share a real story of my son, who used to be troubled in spite of fetching his dream job, campus selection in first go. He shares everything with me and I sensed his disappointment on professional front. He used to bicker about his boss and colleagues. I was too in Corporate world and well aware of the politics and the pressure of professional life.

One day, he told me, “College life achcha tha and we could rely on friends but here, in office, I don’t find the warmth…and I am missing.”

“Stop searching the college and school life friends here in your profession. This world is far different from what you were in. In private firms, there is a cut-throat competition and everyone is in search to grab the best and excel in performance and the best performers are awarded. There is no time bound promotions and rewards, you have to grab it for yourselves, so, none can be your friend. All are opportunists and to save their skin, they might indulge in buttering or leg-pulling. Rely on none to open up your emotions or don’t try to find a shoulder to lean on. Once you are in the premises, you have a tag of your job profile and you have to meet it or beat it.” I explained him coolly.

He was mere 23 at that time, I am sure he could not absorb my sermon well but yes, he sounded good because he felt relieved after understanding that the professional front is quite different and you cannot have soul mates there.

Gradually, his bickering’s about professional life decreased and he tried to settle. It took him a year to understand the professional gimmicks and now, he is comfortable in handling.

He does not believe in playing dirty politics but he has developed listening power with a blank reaction on his face, so, none can judge his index of comfort.

Facts of Professionalism

Nepotism is not only relevant in film industry, if you see closely, you will find in all industries and one has to be very tactful to survive.

Give your best to meet the parameters, if you meet, you will be patted and if you miss, you will be let down. Sometimes, in spite of giving your best, your colleagues will try to knock you down, but, don’t give up. Keep your spirit high, love yourself, and be open to rejections and criticism. Accept that leg pullers exist and they will try their best to bring you down.

Request

Life is precious and thanks to your Mother who brought you on this earth after nurturing you in her womb for nine months. She was reborn the day you were born. Never ever give up rather face the adversities bravely on all fronts of life. Don’t let your enemies rule your life. It is your life and you have to be loyal. Don’t expect that you can please all but try to please yourself and be happy. Try, try, till you succeed, never lose hope.

Learn the tricks of professionalism to survive…Life isn’t easy.

Open up with your family and friends, discuss how you feel, laugh out loud at simple jokes, indulge in the hobbies that you love to, and end your boredom and loneliness.