Relationships are Fragile, Handle with Care.
Been proactive on social media and included in
many groups within social media acquaints me with the issues faced by the
people. Relationship management is not an easy task and it requires patience
and perseverance. We need to remember
that the relationships are like the sacred thread which needs the care to be
handled and maintained. Too much of expectations and alterations might affect
and the thread can be snapped. Once snapped, it is not possible to come back
into original shape, how hard you try. A knot will always be there and it
suffocates the relationship.
रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाय।टूटे से फिर ना जुड़े, जुड़े गांठ परि जाय।।
The
Doha of Rahim is apt to understand the essence of a relationship.
If we remember the words of Rahim, we can be true in maintaining long-term
relationships.
Today, in one of the groups, hot discussion of the day was,“How
to handle Relatives & Friends who sprawl or sit on the sofa with feet up,
Should they be asked to sit properly or ignored?”
The answers thronged the platform and maximum were of the view that they should ask their relatives and friends to sit in a proper way. If it sounds rude, they did not feel to be bothered and negligible were of the opinion, “अतिथिदेवो भव“ and we should refrain from being rude and offensive.
I too plunged in the discussion with my own opinion.
I hold the view that the relatives and friends that visit our place are because they nurture love and care for us and we should respect them.
In today’s scenario, people lazily sprawl on sofas while watching TV or time spent with family. When you yourself do the same then you don’t feel the need to be questioned then how come, you feel like asking family members and guests to avoid.
Further, people love to be in the comfort zone and because they feel at home at your place so they tend to get informal on their visit.
It is better to refrain from asking friends and relatives to be formal and not to sit with feet up or lying on the sofa. It will hurt the sentiments. Why be so concerned about the things that are perishable? It is far better to save the relationships because the relationships are delicate and fragile and need lots of care to flourish. The things damaged can be amended or replaced but a relationship cannot.
People don’t remember us through our articles and commodities, we are remembered for our good and bad deeds.
My sincere advice was that overlook these petty things and rise above these materialistic things to maintain the sanctity of our relationships.
Moreover, if your conscience does not allow to accept the informal behavior of the people, who visit you, then there are a few ways that you can adhere to and maintain silence.
Change your habit and keep the rules uniform for the insiders as well as the outsiders
Don’t allow anybody to break the rules
It is better not to restrict, instead use sofa covers that can be frequently washed or sprawl cotton thin comforters on the sitting arrangements. Wash them weekly.
People loved my idea and I too follow the same at my place. I don’t pinpoint if visitors, friends, and families live informal at my place because I believe that the relationships are above these petty things and why to mar relationships.
I am a firm believer of Rahim Doha and I support it heartily.
Readers, share in your views. Honest views will be appreciated.
Disclaimer: The post is written solely on my experience with the open discussions in various forums. I don’t hold any grudge against someone nor I want to offend someone. I believe in healthy open discussions and I don’t get offended, rather I believe that the open interaction helps us to know many new things to learn and improve.
2 replies on “Relationships are Fragile!”
I guess it is obviously not ok to be informal in some else's home how much ever you are close to them, respecting others space is the most sensible thing to do!
I love to sit on a sofa cross legged, wearing a comfortable attire. Formality is for unknown, for guests. For friends, why be formal? Besides consider this, sofa is relatively new to our culture. Earlier we would sit crosslegged on the floor mat. May be habit is continuing. I agree why bother with such triviality. Let it pass.