Mom’s Challenge with Twins in #Lockdown2020

When life makes you face CORONA, the most positive word you can think of is LOCKDOWN (All for the safety of one’s self and their loved ones)

It’s challenging, and it’s boring, and it’s frustrating, and all those other adjectives that can make one go crazy. But sometimes crazy is important, crazy is the need of the hour and sometimes we all need to just sit back and introspect our respective lives.

I am a mother of 3-year-old twin daughters and we moved to Hyderabad due to my husband’s job four years back. Life has been challenging with twins but this lockdown has surely brought all of us together and closer to each other.

Let me show you a glimpse of how my life has been during this lockdown. For a Wife/ Mom/ Housekeeper/ Nanny/cook every day is like a race. You get up and you get to indulge in all sorts of work until you realize it is bedtime already.

Life in lockdown is nothing less than a race that starts at 8 in the morning and ends at 11 at night. Being a mother of a twin, the lockdown has kept me on my toes with the worst backaches of my life but I am enjoying it. The best part of this lockdown is family time.

My husband’s busy schedule has never allowed him to indulge in any household work, however, now I can say that he makes better paranthas than me.

The first and most important lesson that I learnt during this lockdown was a gentle reminder to all of us that family is most important in our lives. Be it the ones who are with you during these times or the ones who are away by geographical distance.

My husband and my kids have worked like a ray of strength around me to keep the force going for me. The fact that we all have been sharing all the works without any complaints or hassle is peaceful. I bathe the kids, so he gets them ready. I do the sweeping and he finishes it with moping. We have become like a team, who have got each other’s back and this feeling is one of the most satisfying ones.  

The list is a long one so kindly, bear with me. Our parents have shown the amount of love and concern that they have for us by their continuous calls and support. We know that we are not alone in this. Their call once during the day is enough for us to keep doing our best to overcome this.

The second lesson is taught by my toddlers – no matter what the situation is one just needs to talk to the kids and explain. They should always be shown the reality once they gain consciousness to understand it.

They should never be lied to and never shown a false ray of hope. Like all kids, my kids have always loved to play outside, go to the mall once in two weeks, and visit various play areas. However, that was now one of my biggest challenges but I have been awed by the way kids are handling this situation.

Two months ago when I told my girls about Corona (they call it monster virus) I had never thought that they will know the situation and help me deal with it and which they did. Not even once did they cry for stepping out or meeting with friends. When people say God has his plans rare did I think that the plan would include the smartness and understanding of these tiny toddlers of this generation? Every generation is different than the ones before but this one is really smart.

The third lesson that I learnt during this lockdown is that we all are very much self-sufficient. It’s just a matter of convenience that we care to keep help. Since we have moved to Hyderabad with our girls I have always had help for all the household work and also had a nanny from morning to evening for my babies. Not that I have never done it alone but yes on rare occasions it felt good to have help. This is the first time that the occasion has lasted two months and still doesn’t have an expiry date and see how it has turned us self-sufficient.

With great pride I can say my house is much cleaner than it has ever been, we have made and tried all different cuisines. Utensils are clean and don’t need to be put back for washing just because they were not cleaned properly.

Last but not the least my kids have become mostly independent, every habit of theirs that I was scared of how to get rid of, they are overcoming during these times as both their parents are totally available for them, which makes their world beautiful. This is a great opportunity that we have got to live, enjoy some moments that we never even had thought about. Undoubtedly it’s challenging but there is nothing we can’t fight with positivity.

Breathe the fresh air that we are been blessed to get in this lockdown era. Gaze at the stars that we are not able to watch due to a busy schedule. It is time we understand why it is important to work as a team rather than individuals.

The Next Guest Post in series of The Pandemic That Changed Our Life Upside Down By Natasha Dhar Mehrotra.
Don’t miss to read the article of Blogger Bhawna Shah.

What Natasha Says

Life will never be the same again is what I thought when I first left home for work. This feeling yet again feared me when I got married and then did catch me again when the news of having twins broke to me. The reality is life never remains the same as it changes every second, just that these changed to bring in a lot of learning and strength with them. I have learned a lot in life but no learning has been as great as of a MOTHER. I am Natasha Dhar Mehrotra, a Kashmiri girl married into a Khatri family and blessed with two beautiful daughters.