Hacks to Improve your Relationship

No relationship is perfect. Behind closed doors, every couple has their own private set of issues and complications to deal with. Many couples manage these issues together as a team. But for other couples, one partner may be taking the path of least resistance for fear of change, of arguing, of the relationship breaking up, but in these situations, what they desire is change. As a link goes on, partners can find themselves putting up with things they never thought they would, taking each other for granted, never really seeing or hearing the other person. It can be one of the loneliest places on Earth, having a partner who you don’t know or trust. If you have gotten into a rut, it could be that your partner is suffering from some addiction, alcoholism, gambling, etc. You may find you need to seek some expert advice and partner support counseling before taking the next steps. When confronted with personal issues, many people experience an overwhelming sense of fear of embarrassment and don’t want to discuss their problems with friends or family and may even pretend things are good. Questions, therefore, grow more profound and more entrenched, with neither party able to confront the other, and this can harm the mental health of all involved.

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Communication

If you’re unhappy with in your relationship, the chances are pretty high that the other person is also unfortunate. You need to communicate. Breaking the ice after a long period can be extremely difficult, but it is also necessary. You need to be strong and create time to talk. No-one is too busy for this. If your partner cannot find the time to talk to you, perhaps that in itself is all the information you need to decide the best course of action for your wellbeing. A relationship could be breaking down for many different reasons, but in most cases, your partner wants to improve things just as much as you do. Once you have overcome the hurdle of communication, there are many different ways to put that spark back in, such as:

•  A romantic evening out once a week, or a month.
•  Roleplay and experimentation. Find out what your partner desires and act it out. Something like this can help build a deep trust within a relationship.
•  You could take long walks in the countryside, holding hands, a tactile approach.
• Increase daily affection, show your partner you appreciate their companionship.
• Work on cutting out traits that annoy your partner.
• Learn your partner’s limits and accept them.
• Try new things together. Go out of your comfort zone to experience the world again.
• Focussing on each other, not just the children.

Most issues within a relationship can be resolved by simple communication and willpower. Anything worth having takes time and work. Remember, no relationship is perfect, but it has to be mutually beneficial to continue. So, it is up to you how to improve things. Perhaps you and your partner could compile a list of things you want to try. If you love your partner and your partner loves you, you could spend a lifetime completing them.