In my family, I am in minority, three men rule in my family; my husband, and my two handsome dudes. Initially, I thought that it would be tough for me to manage three males if they really showed their masculine characters as our father and grandfather were…over demanding and not moving a bit even to complete their personal work.
Being in minority, still I had the bigger stakes in hand to mould them into independent individuals…no dependency on anyone, no gender discrimination. Each of us were physically and mentally normal, hence could do all the work, no classification that it is not my work. Everyone had to exert and help each other in maintaining household whether it was internal affairs or external.
Home ministry had the power to ask them to help me in my chores or complete their own work, without looking at me with bechara types.
Now the question is, “How did I manage the Musketeers?”
I believe in disciplining kids from cradle and I stuck to my viewpoint. As they grew, I gave them the liberty to do the things on their own what they were capable of. Gradually, they understood their chores and acted accordingly.
By the age of six, I taught them fireless cooking, keeping their belongings in place, and help me in my household chores. With age, they learnt cooking, making tea for guests, helping to lay down the table, making beds, etc.
I did not leave them alone in initial years, they did along with me and gradually, I started getting out of it when I saw that they were practically fit to complete on their own.
When they were in 5th or 6th standard, I used to wash their clothes and they had the duty of ironing their school uniforms.
I cooked food and they packed their tiffin and water bottles.
We both were working so their minor help proved to be major for us because it saved my time and they learned to be independent.
Gradually, washing machine operations were handed over to them when they reached 9th class.
I taught them how to load the machine, how much detergent to be used and blah, blah, blah. Initially, they operated when I or my hubby was at home and with passing years, they got so smart in washing machine operational techniques that they rushed to wash all the clothes that was got accumulated in cloth bag.
Once they loaded my clothes, put all the coloured and whites in one assuming to see a smile on my face after hectic day…O my god, the color bled and all whites were transformed into colors. I was furious but seeing their innocent bechara faces, I controlled my temper and asked them to refrain from trying their hands on my clothes.
They are adults now and they are self-sufficient to manage internal and external affairs of the household along with their demanding job. My initial training and giving them space to grow helped them to grow into independent indivduals. They are bereft from the feelings of gender discrimination. None at my place ever says that it is not a part of my job.
I am benefited the most when they are in town. They cook my favourite dishes and lay on the table to relish my palette.
I raised my sons inculcating both the habits; the characteristics of a girl and a boy…and I look forward for my daughter-in-laws to join us in and multiply my minority gang.
A note for all Moms, “Teach your kids good values and not gender discrimination if you want to watch our society prospering”
I am thankful to Ariel for their initiative to #sharetheload and make society a better place to live in.
Rear kids as independent individuals and teach them to respect all irrespective of gender.
Sons of today understand the face of changing society, just they need a push up to stand for the woman in her life, be it his Mom, Sister, Wife or Daughter.
Kids imitate elders and if all fathers help their mothers and vice versa then all sons and daughters will walk on the shown path.
The feeling of gender biasness is diminishing at a snail pace and the transformation can be seen in urban areas and semi-rural areas. Gradually but certainly, our world will kick out gender
biasness word from the dictionary, sooner or later if we continue the practice of training sons and daughters as individual entities and they believe in self-work.
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